Brave Enough To Be Bliss

Chapter 1 — Fear & Control

“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” Marie Curie

“What is your biggest fear?” I was asked.

“Flying,” I answered.

“Well, I guess it’s actually heights.”

“No, to be honest, it’s the fear of falling.”

“And, I guess…if I really think about it now…it’s the feeling I can’t catch myself, that there’s nothing solid beneath my feet.”

“O K , I get it now. I see where you’re going with this, Ginger, and I’m not really sure I like it, but…”

“The fear is, I do not have control. That is the fear.”

Aha, the epiphany.

When I questioned myself, when I got beneath the easy answers and summoned the courage to peel back all the layers, to look deeply within about how I really feel, not how I think, but how I feel…that’s when I was able to see what was holding me back from the beauty of living and experiencing all this life has to offer.

Fear and control.

“Fear doesn’t want to feel itself, it’s actually afraid of itself. So people utilize the mind in an attempt to manipulate life for the purpose of not feeling fear.” Steven Alimaras

When humans are scared, we seek control, but I didn’t learn that until a few years ago. So, instead of acknowledging and expressing the fear, understanding where it’s coming from, and learning how to deal with it in a healthy way, I unknowingly negatively affected myself and my relationships by attempting to control a situation or another person. Asking ourselves and each other hard questions can improve and even save relationships, jobs, and sometimes, even lives like mine. I believe we all have the power within to contemplate and eventually conquer every one of our fears. One…by…one. It isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.

I believe we all innately know our own answers and therein lies the secret to…finding our own bliss.

“Understanding yourself is power. Loving yourself is freedom. Forgiving yourself is peace. Being yourself is bliss.” Unknown

Resources ▪ Erwin Raphael McManus (@erwinmcmanus) • Instagram photos and videos ▪ Mindsethub | Motivation | Lewis Howes - Learn to regulate your feelings. - Credits : @lewishowes Follow @mindsethub_for more Follow @mindsethub_for more Follow… | Instagram ▪ Mental Toughness — Ginger Rothhaas ▪ Take The Assessment - LaRae Quy

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