Brave Enough To Be Bliss

some people won’t share or perhaps don’t even know yet , but the reason is there and knowing that can help us feel compassion even when the behavior is wrong and hurtful.

In no way did the fact the employee had been hurt multiple times justify the hurtful decision, but it explained that there was unhealed pain that motivated the employee to excessively drink alcohol to the point the employee was willing to violate personal values, not to mention those of the employer. In a drunken moment of inner rage, the employee lashed out in anger to avoid feeling the deep pain that festered beneath that. No doubt the employee ’ s behavior was wrong, but that is what we humans do when we allow unhealed wounds to drive our decision making. We suppress, we numb, we cope however we have to in order to avoid the pain and through that avoidance, we hurt ourselves and others, and the cycle goes on and on and on. Unless we choose to face the pain, face ourselves and stop the cycle. Personally, and professionally, when people do things that are not consistent with who you know them to be, instead of reacting to the behavior, consider responding first with compassion. Give the benefit of the doubt that there is something more behind the behavior than you may know. Relationships can be ruined, and lives can be forever changed when we respond from fear, instead of with compassion and love for our fellow humans.

“Beneath every behavior there is a feeling. And beneath each feeling is a need. And when we meet that need rather than focus on the behavior, we begin to deal with the cause not the symptom.” Ashleigh Warner

Resources ▪ Simon Sinek on Building Trusting Teams in the US Marine Corps - YouTube ▪ What Business Can Learn From the Military | Simon Sinek at Entreleadership 2019 (youtube.com) ▪ What Makes the Highest Performing Teams in the World | Simon Sinek (youtube.com) ▪ One key leadership lesson everyone can learn from the US Marines (youtube.com) ▪ Amazon.com : book fearless by eric blehm ▪ For Those Who Feel Unworthy of Love - Propel Women

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