Brave Enough To Be Bliss

5 Deadly Terms Used by A Woman (5 Deadly Terms Used by a Woman! Are You Offended Too? | Life Coach on the Go) #1 Fine — This is the word women use to end an argument when she knows she is right and you need to shut up.

#2 Nothing — Means something and you need to be worried. #3 Go Ahead — This is a dare, not permission, do not do it. #4 Whatever — A woman’s way of saying screw you.

#5 That’s OK— She is thinking long and hard on how and when you will pay for your mistake. Bonus Word: Wow! — This is not a compliment. She ’ s amazed that one person could be so stupid.

If the tables were turned and you were on the receiving end of this communication, would this behavior feel respectful, kind, honest, open…like someone you would want to be vulnerable enough with to share your raw emotion? Or would you say, “ hell the f*** no, ” and shut your real feelings down in order to survive in that household? If you don’t want to adjust your behavior to be respectful, kind and loving, don’t expect he’s going to adjust his. And do expect that miscommunication, disrespect and unhealthy behaviors of all kinds will follow from both of you.

“I’ve noticed that the most successful relationships in the world have one thing in common– the ability and willingness to work through conflict and get back to a good place.” Jayson Gaddis

If women want to gain more power and strength in their relationships and not stoop to using punishments with the men they love, one way to do it is by learning healthy skills for resolving conflict. Jayson Gaddis is the author of Getting to Zero and anyone can download the first chapter of his book on his website. Reading it will give you not only a glimpse at how conflict in childhood can affect us, but also what it is like to be a young boy growing up with lots of mixed messages.

Welcome to Getting to Zero - Getting to Zero Book

Women often get irritated at their husbands for not remembering where their keys are or not being able to find something in the refrigerator or at the grocery store. We laugh at those things, but what if it was actually just a vision capability difference between males and females? Men often complain about their wives’ comments on their driving, but what if it was simply the same issue ? What if it’s not better or worse, but simply different ? What if there’s no reason to get irritated with each other, but plenty of reason to appreciate the differences and count on the other’s expertise in one area or another? What if men could acknowledge the ir deficit and then ask for help finding whatever is needed, and women could sit back, relax, and close their eyes, trusting the man driving will keep them safe (considering he has an excellent driving record to back that up, of course)? What if it became more about celebrating the uniqueness instead of making jokes and complaining about the differences?

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Finding ways to work together with men, rather than against them, where you both come to the relationship aware of and respecting those differences, allows each party to work from strengths, not weaknesses. Leading from strengths allows everyone to have less fear and with less fear comes more confidence. When we aren’t scared of each other, we can find solutions much more quickly. But first comes the learning, and with increased knowledge comes the ability to understand, and with understanding comes respect and trust.

“Why does a woman work ten years to change a man, then complain he's not the man she married?” Barbra Streisand

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