Brave Enough To Be Bliss

Ginger thinking of child

Kylee thinking of parent

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time

Quality Time Receiving Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch

Words of Affirmation

Receiving Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch

Back in 2018, it seemed to make sense that Kylee’s love language would mirror what I had given her. Even though she saw him frequently through high school, she hadn’t lived with her dad for eight years by the time she took this quiz. I don’t know what his love languages were back then to be able to tell if it also correlated with his or not. It’s definitely something that would have been good for us to do back then. As I said, I think it’s good for every relationship because through the discussion, there are things you can learn about the other person that do n’t come up in daily conversation . I was curious in 2021, thinking about a relationship with a man, if since the relationship with John mine had changed at all. Especially after healing from the rape and getting more comfortable with hugging, physical touch was the primary way I felt his affection for me, since he never expressed his emotions to me verbally.

Ginger thinking of a partner (9/8/2021) Words of Affirmation Physical Touch Quality Time

Receiving Gifts Acts of Service

Not knowing if mine changing made any sense at all, I asked Kylee if she would take it now that she had been married several years thinking about her relationship with Will. When I looked at my list, it made me curious about acts of service . I think it’s helpful for me to keep in mind if I were going into a relationship at some point because I still think I will have to make a conscious effort to receive. I was forced during the knee surgery recoveries to ask for help, but on an ongoing basis, I think it will be important that I pay attention, so I don’t revert to trying to take care of someone and end up resentful. I thought it was worth sharing because it can be an interesting discussion for parents and children, as well as couples.

Ginger thinking of a partner (3/16/24)

Kylee thinking of partner (4/25/24)

Physical Touch

Quality Time Acts of Service Physical Touch Receiving Gifts

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time Receiving Gifts Acts of Service

Words of Affirmation

And that leads me to the topic of this chapter, communication. I don’t know for sure if it’s because I’m so exhausted from lack of sleep or not, but I have been truly laughing out loud here in the lake condo all by myself thinking about the final two chapters that I am trying to finish. I had a lot of the “guts” of the chapter placed, but I just hadn’t tackled weaving it all together. The two chapters are…Beginning to Communicate, this one, and Conflicting with Conflict. I believe it should be painfully clear if you’ve been reading this far, but just in case, at least with a man, those have been my two hardest things to do with them. And to top it off, I just finished reading an email I had sent to a friend to review a chapter and let me know if it was OK to include her loved one’s name in the chapter dedication. She wrote these very nice things about it, but her communication seemed very formal compared to what I was used to. As I was in the kitchen getting something to drink, it hit me. She wrote a review of the chapter because the subject of the email was Chapter Review Request. And as I stood there laughing at myself for it taking me so long to get it, it also occurred to me just how terrible a communicator I really am with virtually everyone unless it has to do with feelings. I can write about feelings and somehow come across very accuratel y, but otherwise, it’s like there is a huge disconnect. And that’s it, my heart and soul communicate my feelings and I don’t doubt them at all. When I speak in any form from my heart and soul, the words just flow, and I can’t think of too many times I’ve miscommunicated. It is just when I speak from my brain that things get all jumbled up. It’s like when I advised a CEO to speak from

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