Brave Enough To Be Bliss

kept it running my life with what I told myself I was because of it. But now it is out of my life. And the bonus of cutting it off and up in my mind is that there is no legal repercussion to deal with. I am free in every sense of the word. I’ve done the wo rk, so he and his dick are dead to me. I realize that no man will likely ever feel comfortable having sex with me in the future if he reads that paragraph, but I felt it was important to share the completely unedited words of what I wrote that morning. It’s raw, it’s difficult, it’s a lot; but that…is…life. And instead of pushing those feelings down, ignoring them, dulling them with substances …we need to feel them, to own them and to do so without fear of condemnation. It doesn’t mean every person who is raped may feel this exact same way or that every person who is raped responds like I did. But I am learning the more I open up about it, the more evidence there is that most people do not report it and find some way to bury the pain instead of facing it head on. And everyone needs to understand that if you love someone who has been abused or assaulted, you will have to dig deep to understand the repercussions in your relationship as a result of what that person endured. You will need to be patient and understanding and love unconditionally to help heal the wounds and create safety. You may be bearing the brunt of the impact of what some other person did, but direct your anger at the perpetrator, not the one you love. Let it move you to the point of doing something about it so other people aren’t hurt like the one you love was. Because when you do all of that and when you aren’t afraid to speak up and speak out against any type of sexual harassment, abuse, and assault, you will earn a trust, receive a loyalty, and create a bond that will make it all worthwhile.

“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.” Carlos Castaneda

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