Brave Enough To Be Bliss

If I am to have another relationship, I will not accept a less than a healthy one. I know the difference now because I am happy with myself. I don’t need someone else to give me something I don’t already have. I want to share my life with someone to add joy and fullness, but not to give me something that I am missing. I found my missing piece and it was me. I would enjoy spending more time with you and getting to know you better. We can be friends and you can work out your feelings for her and work on you. Until then, though, I couldn’t be anything but friends. And if that’s all we ever are, that’s ok or if you’d rather not see each other again that’s ok too.

I am a loving, generous, passionate person who cares deeply about human beings. I want the very best for you regardless of how that would ever affect me. I just won’t accept less than a healthy relationship with anyone I would give my heart to ever again.

Have a safe trip, Ginger

I forwarded the email to Ginger to give her an update on how things went with Scott and below is her reply. And it did feel like perhaps that long-awaited new chapter might actually begin.

From: Ginger Bliss To: Ginger Rothhaas Sun, Jul 11, 2021 at 10:52 AM

Wonderful!!! This was a very brave move to put yourself out there. And you did it from a place of strength and self-consciousness. Beautiful healing work. This was a practice run for the gift of love that is ahead. Now you are ready to receive it from a place of self love. And that’s when magic begins to happen. This is day one of a great new chapter for you!

“Many of us developed the people -pleasing pattern as the result of having caregivers who could not (or would not) mirror us; who could not recognize, validate, and sit with us in our emotions and experiences. In order to be seen, we learned to neglect our own feelings and engage with others on the basis of their emotions and experiences — and so we became chronic listeners, fixers, and caregivers. Learning to validate our own emotions and experiences — and building relationships with others who do the same — is h ow we begin to heal.” @haileypaigemagee Codependency Recovery Coach And I did follow through with learning the basics of boxing. While I only went to about five classes, the last one or two by myself, it was a wonderful feeling of release and power. I didn’t really feel anger yet, so it wasn’t as though I was hitting the bag with any of that. It simply felt empowering to do something I never would have thought I could do. To put on boxing gloves, to hit the bag…those were very hard things to do the first time. They felt awkward. I didn’t know how to do anything when I stepped into that gym. I needed help to learn every punch and I didn’t do the combinations well at all. I wasn’t keeping up, but it didn’t matter. I was learning something new, and it was OK that it was hard and took time to learn. It didn’t matter if other people were there and could have been watching me, or that the instructors were watching me. I was in a room full of mostly very large men who I didn’t know. And yet I was there, and I was safe.

It felt brave. There were mirrors all over the room, but I didn’t look in them and criticize myself. I didn’t need to. It no longer mattered how I looked on the outside, because I felt strong and powerful inside.

“Joy is a decision, a really brave one, about how you are going to respond to life.” Wess Stafford

Resources ▪ On Purpose with Jay Shetty: Why You Haven't Healed From Your Break Up and How To Get Over Your Ex on Apple Podcasts ▪ Amazon.com : body keeps the score ▪ Top 5 Exercises For Fat Loss || Do Every Morning (youtube.com) ▪ A Self-Healing Day - DailyOM ▪ All Posts • Instagram ▪ Rachel Hollis Talks About Her Book, "Girl, Stop Apologizing" (youtube.com) ▪ Triggers — Ginger Rothhaas

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