Brave Enough To Be Bliss

I female athletic director in the country. I didn’t even feel like it was that unrealistic, a stretch maybe, but I was doing a good job convincing people I could be successful professionally.

The next couple years went by quickly, and I seemed to be accepted in this male-dominated career and was often invited to join my boss and his peers at lunch. I didn’t feel uncomfortable as the only female there. It wasn’t uncommon for conference meetings in Kansas City to be held at a nearby Hooters , and other than the Hooters Girls I was generally the only female in the place, but I wasn’t intimidated. I didn’t feel disrespected as a professional, so it just wasn’t something I thought about. The only issue that occasionally arose was married men would flirt with me and make suggestive comments. Sometimes athletes would, as well, but they were easier to deal with and it didn’t feel as bad since I assumed at least they were single. “Lacking adequate parental support or connection, many emotionally deprived children are eager to leave childhood behind. They perceive that the best solution is to grow up quickly and become self-sufficient. These children become competent beyond their years but lonely at their core. They often jump into adulthood prematurely, getting jobs as soon as they can, becoming sexually active, marrying early, or joining the service. It’s as though they’re saying, Since I’m already taking care of myself, I might as well go ahead and get the benefits of growing up fast. They look forward to adulthood, believing it offers freedom and a chance to belong. Sadly, in their rush to leave home they may end up marrying the wrong person, tolerating exploitation, or staying with a job that takes more than it gives and often settle for emotional loneliness in their relationships because it is normal to them, like their early home life.” Lindsay C. Gibson Resources ▪ ItsJustMental | Childhood trauma can predict health issues, mental illness, addiction and behavioural problems. CBT can be the first step in solving those… | Instagram ▪ Carmen Beese | You know how sometimes we feel a bit low because we think that if others aren’t showering us with love, maybe we’re not that loveable? It’s… | Instagram ▪ Dr. John Delony (@johndelony) • Instagram photos and videos But it was clear, all they wanted was sex, they didn’t want to date or have a relationship with me. So clearly, this was just further proof that I was unlovable.

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