SOMA Living October 2025

Helping anxious kids isn’t always simple. Here are common traps adults can fall into— and what to try instead. FROM THE DOCTOR

4) TOUGHEN UP

Pushing too hard or dismissing worries (“Don’t cry,” “Just do it”) leaves kids feeling unseen and overwhelmed. Offer empathy without escape. Normalize their fear, express belief in their abilities, and guide them to try. If you or your child are struggling, I can help: drdana@drdanarhule.com

1) SUPERHERO PARENT

We may want to look strong, calm, like we have it all together. But hiding our own worries can backfire. Kids think we are superheroes and wonder, “What’s wrong with me?” Let them peek behind the cape. Share, in age appropriate ways, when you feel anxious and how you cope: “I get nervous meeting new people, so I breathe and remind myself I’ve done it before.” Seeing you as human helps them feel hopeful and open up. Telling a child to breathe while you pace just won’t land. Kids resist instructions when they are upset. But they watch you all the time. Model and practice calming strategies together daily—belly breathing, positive self-talk, or a pause—and they’ll be more likely to try it too. Avoidance shrinks a child’s world. Resist the urge to skip the party. Instead, validate their feelings and support one brave step forward: “I know this is scary. I’ll hold your hand as we walk in.” Then celebrate each step to reinforce their courage. 2) DO AS I SAY 3) RESCUE MISSION

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